This is such a funny time of the year. We eagerly look forward to Christmas and then when it finally comes we eat and drink too much and generally end up feeling very bad afterwards. Or aren’t you happy now Christmas finally over? Determined to mend our ways, with our blurred brains and floppy stomachs we are fertile ground for grand New Year’s resolutions. This year will be no different.
Let’s look back and think how many of our resolutions did we ever manage to keep? I mean honestly. How many of those “I will never drink again” or “I will go to the gym every day” – resolutions ever lasted the test of real life longer than a week? So what’s the point?
This year we’d like you to make just one simple resolution, and keep it. No, you don’t get to choose it because the chances are you’d choose poorly and there really is only one that will make a difference. So just ditch the long list of promises about healthier lifestyle and sobering up. You won’t need any of those, as this one simple promise – if you keep it – will fix everything! (Well that is a big promise, I know. Read on.)
This year we will promise ourselves to start showing up to our own life. Yes, sounds simple but requires a bit more effort than showing up to the gym!
Firstly, you have to make an honest assessment about the state of your life right now. Second step is to truthfully acknowledge what you want out of life in the long run. This is much more difficult than it sounds. Write both things down. Look for clarity and truth within yourself. If it’s hard to find, make it your goal to discover it.
What ever the dream you are chasing or a thing you want to improve in your life, you have to start taking it – that is, yourself – seriously. From now on whenever you plan to do something that will help you move closer to your goal you must treat it like an appointment with yourself. It will be an appointment you don’t want to miss because your success will depend on it!
By showing up to the appointments with yourself you will start showing up to your own life.
If you agree to go to the gym with your friend you most likely go because you don’t want to disappoint your friend and seem rude. Well, next time you plan to go to the gym alone make an appointment with yourself first. You will have to show up for the same reason – you don’t want to disappoint yourself and be rude to your dreams. This time you are serious about feeling better and living healthier.
If you plan to read a book that will help you understand the business you want to set up, make an appointment with yourself for five evenings a week for 30 minutes to read that book – and make sure you show up! If you miss an appointment look at yourself from the outside and see how rude it was to miss it.
If you want to change your diet and eat healthier this year you should make an appointment with yourself to investigate different diets or attend an evening workshop where you can get more information about the topic. Don’t postpone, value your own dream, don’t think it will just happen. Take it seriously and show up to your life!
And stop making appointments you are not going to keep. It’s important to become more realistic about your time. If you were to meet people for business or socially you wouldn’t overbook your calendar, you’d factor in the London traffic and so on. Same applies here. Allocate time in your daily schedule realistically. And then honour your appointments and show up!
You can quit an excessive boozing, eating or TV habit following the same principle. If you have an important appointment coming up it’s difficult to show up feeling hangover or sluggish. You wouldn’t watch TV all night if you were to see a friend for a dinner either, would you? Apply the same principle and start showing up to your own life.
We’ll be celebrating women who show up to their own lives in 2014, and we hope you will join us for this incredible, fun and exciting journey!
We wish all our lovely readers the very best for the year ahead. We hope it will be the most exciting year you’ve ever had! And good luck (though, we believe in what Thomas Jefferson said: “I’m a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work the more I have of it.”) with your New Year’s resolution.
~ Miisa & Jennifer
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